I Want a Divorce or is it Holiness?

spending time with God puts everything else in perspective  AACC (Image by: American Association of Christian Counselors)

When we had been married all of three years, I had experienced about all I could stand where disagreements were concerned.  We were standing in the kitchen where arguments seemed to happen, and the argument was critical to our life; (although I do not recall at the moment what that critical thing was). What I do remember is the yelling.

It felt like we were in an untenable position so my mind went to the most ridiculous conclusion, “I want a divorce!” There was a brief pause, and then my husband responded, “Well then you get the lawyer.” Hmmm, this of course brought the argument to an end as we looked at one another then walked away. In my childish ignorance, I really thought that tactic would stump him . . .

As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as He who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: “Be holy, because I am holy” –I Peter 14-16.

I knew I did not want a divorce, I just wanted something good to happen. This argument took place over 34 years ago just shortly before we gave our lives to the Lord. And He has been calling us to Himself ever since. Nothing we can do even when we are motivated by love can compare with His dealings in our lives because of His perfect love. It is out of this love that He calls us to separate ourselves from worldly pursuits, and to recognize that our lives are hidden in Christ Jesus (Colossians 3:3).


Father, please reveal your holiness to us as we spend time seeking You to “be holy as You are holy.” Thank you for increasing our awareness of Your holiness which is our opportunity to imitate You, the One who loved us first, and Who loves us most. Amen.


2 thoughts on “I Want a Divorce or is it Holiness?

  1. Strange how things that loomed with such importance cannot be remembered. We both had found Jesus before marriage, now in our 37th year (without a fight – today 😉 ). The glue is that we committed to each other before God and we intend to keep that promise.When that is the prime directive, then along the way we find ways to make it work. Amazing what doesn’t happen when old fights don’t get re-fought. In this love can flourish.
    Still like the style you use to say what you say.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing your humorous insight and wisdom regarding the marriage relationship as well as your encouragement which is always appreciated. Blessings on you and your marriage.

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