There are a lot of hurting people in marriage and other relationships. At any given moment you, me, and or someone we know is going to experience relational pain. We pray, seek, and hope, yet the hurt either persists, or it settles down long enough to make room for more pain to surface. Pain and offense seem to abound while healing seems to be taking its own sweet time. It is complicated and simple all at the same time, because while one comes to understanding, the other is still hurting and or choosing unforgiveness; then vice versa. Truly it is only by the grace of God that we enter into relationship.
Where do we go from here?
We pray hard and we seek remaining watchful for any opportunity for reconciliation. We search our heart to see if there is any unforgiveness and unresolved hurt (and usually there is). We get clear about our part in the fissure; and we seek God’s and the other person’s forgiveness. This is the part that can take what seems like endless amounts of time, but is necessary if there is to be hope for restoration. This time can also be about seeking wise and trusted counsel to support us in this journey, because sometimes it can feel like we are the only one standing for reconciliation in our relationship.
Therefore we pray:
Lord, please bind up the wounds of our broken hearts, and mend our souls, causing us to experience oneness in You. Lord, thank You for causing us to remember our love for one another. May each relationship “above all, clothe [themselves] with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in [our hearts] . . .” Colossians 3:14 – 15a. Amen.
Still counting it All joy.